Dear Queenie: Advice for an Imperfect World: Looking For Love Archives

Attracted To A Married Man

Hi. I just stumbled upon your site. I am a single w/f 37 yoa and lonely. I am attractive, but have a very hard time meeting men. Just to say it I am a home body with no real hobbies, so I often find myself at home alone (which I am totally comfortable with). It's my safe place and I love it!!!

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The Game Of Love

I'm a 27 year old female who has been kinda chasing after a 30 year old male. We have been on several dates and when were together everything perfect we have so much fun. but he refuses to let me get to close to him, he said its because he has been hurt 3 times before. I have been hurt to but that doesn't stop me from trying again. I need your advise on how to handle this matter. I really want to be with him. -- Mattie

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Like A Fish Out Of Water

I am a 33 year old female who has been in a relationship for over a year and a half with a 38 year old man. He is a wonderful man, who is very kind and generous. We do not live together yet, and have an hour and 1/2 separating us. He owns a cottage in the area where I grew up with my family and this is where we met. We meet at his cottage on the weekends and we also try to get together one day through the week.

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Is Her Old Boyfriend History?

Hi - Thank you for your excellent column... I read it frequently and find it very helpful and enjoyable. Let's see if I can consolidate my question sufficiently to entice you to give me your wisdom on it... I am a 28 year old professional, who up until 2 months ago was in a pretty serious 1 year relationship. That relationship was having its troubles in early June, when along came a 24 year old woman into my work environment who was just supposed to be here for the summer.

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Tired Of The Stress

I have been separated from ex-husband for 7 yrs and in current relationship for 4 years. My current partner does not have a colourful past, and can be at times quite controlling, especially when it comes to discipline for my son. (from my ex-husband).

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In Love Too Soon

I told him I loved him when I was very intoxicated and he dumped me the next day....I was very shocked and hurt we hadnt been going out for very long and he cited underlying issues along with.....the fact he didnt want to use me.

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She Thinks She's Boring

I haven't dated in over four years. I finally found a man I'm interested in, but when I talk to him on the phone or in person I get all tonge tied. I feel like I'm a boring person. I don't do this with other man, just him. What can I do to get past this, before I ruin it. Thanks

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He's Found His Soul Mate

Queenie, I am insane about a girl and I have never been like this before. I'm 28, good looking and have always been "in tune" with women's feelings, but this one has me over the barrel.

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What Was The Question?

I was going out with someone just getting to know him and it was not going anywhere for me, but for him he seemed comfortable with the was it was going (or so it seemed). He had mentioned that he wanted to take a step further and not be freinds.

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Not The Time For Serious Dating

I am 33 and currently going through a divorce. Recently I met a 26 year old girl at work. We are both very interested in each other. When I met her she had a boyfriend who she has lived with for 5 years. By meeting me she realized many problems she had not realized in her own relationship. I brought them to light by the way I treated her, which was much better than her boyfriend treated her. She broke up with him to be with me even though my divorce is not final.

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Her Boyfriend Is Getting Married

I have been seeing this guy for about two and a half months now. the problem is he is engaged to get married in august of this year. his fiance lives in another state., so he and i are together all of the time except for when she comes into town, even then he manages to call me and see at work.

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Too Close to be Soulmates?

Dear Queenie, This is my first time writing to an advice column. Here goes... I am a 35 year old woman. I have been in a pretty good relationship for the past four years. My boyfriend treats me very good and I appreciate him especially after all of the lousy relationships I have been involved in in the past.

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She Left and He Got A New Girlfriend

I dated P for 1 year and then moved west to teach. He told me he would give me one year and then he wanted me to move back east. We dated long distance throughout that year and at the end I did not know if he was the one for me. I told him I need more time to make sure. I was trying to find myself.

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Really Desperate for a Relationship

Hi Queenie, I would very much appreciate your advice since I am lingering in a sad state and would like to go on with my life. I'm 35, divorced for 2 1/2 years, with a beautiful 6-year old daughter. Generally, my life is good. The only thing that's missing is love.

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Are Physical Looks Important?

iam 22 years with 5ft7". but i weigh only approx 59kgs and so looks a bit thinner. I love a girl with good looks and figure but i am unable to express my feeling to her as i feel that i am undersize for her and so she may not like me.

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Sleeping With A Mutual Friend

One of my closest friends had a crush on a mutual friend of ours for a few months, but never did anything about it. They talked on the phone occasionally, however she never told him of her feelings. In the meantime I was becoming more and more attracted to him.

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Looking For Mr. Right

Dear Queenie, first of all, I want to say I think your advice is very sound and compassionate and I read your previous columns with great interest. But, none seems to relate to my exact problem.

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Seeking What Should Be Hers

I have a problem that has been detrimental to all my relationships. I was raised in a family that punished me for showing any sort of emotional need. I was supposed to be the one who supported everyone else, but I never received any kind of warmth or kindness in return.

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Looking for Mr. Perfect

I am in my twenties and have dated many guys. At first I always seem to be interested and have fun with them, but after a couple of months I become bored. I don't know if it is me or just the guys I date.

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Dear Queenie: Advice for an Imperfect World Let's face it, if this was a perfect world, I'd be sitting under a beach umbrella, sipping a pina colada, watching buff bods play volleyball. But, this world is far from perfect. So, for now, the beach and buff bods will have to wait. I will, however, sip a pina colada or two as I ponder the best advice for your situation if your love life is in the dumpster.
Questions? Ask Queenie Go to Queenie Home Topics Abusive Relationships And More... Breaking Up Is Hard To Do Can This Marriage Be Saved? Can This Relationship Work? Cheating Side Of Town Cyber Love Forgiving Friends To Lovers He's Married, She's Not Is It Truly Over? Letting Go Looking For Love Midlife Madness Sexually Speaking... Stay Or Go? Torn Between Two Lovers Younger Man, Older Woman	Attracted To A Married Man Hi. I just stumbled upon your site. I am a single w/f 37 yoa and lonely. I am attractive, but have a very hard time meeting men. Just to say it I am a home body with no real hobbies, so I often find myself at home alone (which I am totally comfortable with). It's my safe place and I love it!!! Continue reading "Attracted To A Married Man" The Game Of Love I'm a 27 year old female who has been kinda chasing after a 30 year old male. We have been on several dates and when were together everything perfect we have so much fun. but he refuses to let me get to close to him, he said its because he has been hurt 3 times before. I have been hurt to but that doesn't stop me from trying again. I need your advise on how to handle this matter. I really want to be with him. -- Mattie Continue reading "The Game Of Love" Like A Fish Out Of Water I am a 33 year old female who has been in a relationship for over a year and a half with a 38 year old man. He is a wonderful man, who is very kind and generous. We do not live together yet, and have an hour and 1/2 separating us. He owns a cottage in the area where I grew up with my family and this is where we met. We meet at his cottage on the weekends and we also try to get together one day through the week. Continue reading "Like A Fish Out Of Water" Is Her Old Boyfriend History? Hi - Thank you for your excellent column... I read it frequently and find it very helpful and enjoyable. Let's see if I can consolidate my question sufficiently to entice you to give me your wisdom on it... I am a 28 year old professional, who up until 2 months ago was in a pretty serious 1 year relationship. That relationship was having its troubles in early June, when along came a 24 year old woman into my work environment who was just supposed to be here for the summer. Continue reading "Is Her Old Boyfriend History?" Tired Of The Stress I have been separated from ex-husband for 7 yrs and in current relationship for 4 years. My current partner does not have a colourful past, and can be at times quite controlling, especially when it comes to discipline for my son. (from my ex-husband). Continue reading "Tired Of The Stress" In Love Too Soon I told him I loved him when I was very intoxicated and he dumped me the next day....I was very shocked and hurt we hadnt been going out for very long and he cited underlying issues along with.....the fact he didnt want to use me. Continue reading "In Love Too Soon" She Thinks She's Boring I haven't dated in over four years. I finally found a man I'm interested in, but when I talk to him on the phone or in person I get all tonge tied. I feel like I'm a boring person. I don't do this with other man, just him. What can I do to get past this, before I ruin it. Thanks Continue reading "She Thinks She's Boring" He's Found His Soul Mate Queenie, I am insane about a girl and I have never been like this before. I'm 28, good looking and have always been "in tune" with women's feelings, but this one has me over the barrel. Continue reading "He's Found His Soul Mate" What Was The Question? I was going out with someone just getting to know him and it was not going anywhere for me, but for him he seemed comfortable with the was it was going (or so it seemed). He had mentioned that he wanted to take a step further and not be freinds. Continue reading "What Was The Question?" Not The Time For Serious Dating I am 33 and currently going through a divorce. Recently I met a 26 year old girl at work. We are both very interested in each other. When I met her she had a boyfriend who she has lived with for 5 years. By meeting me she realized many problems she had not realized in her own relationship. I brought them to light by the way I treated her, which was much better than her boyfriend treated her. She broke up with him to be with me even though my divorce is not final. Continue reading "Not The Time For Serious Dating" Her Boyfriend Is Getting Married I have been seeing this guy for about two and a half months now. the problem is he is engaged to get married in august of this year. his fiance lives in another state., so he and i are together all of the time except for when she comes into town, even then he manages to call me and see at work. Continue reading "Her Boyfriend Is Getting Married" Too Close to be Soulmates? Dear Queenie, This is my first time writing to an advice column. Here goes... I am a 35 year old woman. I have been in a pretty good relationship for the past four years. My boyfriend treats me very good and I appreciate him especially after all of the lousy relationships I have been involved in in the past. Continue reading "Too Close to be Soulmates?" She Left and He Got A New Girlfriend I dated P for 1 year and then moved west to teach. He told me he would give me one year and then he wanted me to move back east. We dated long distance throughout that year and at the end I did not know if he was the one for me. I told him I need more time to make sure. I was trying to find myself. Continue reading "She Left and He Got A New Girlfriend" Really Desperate for a Relationship Hi Queenie, I would very much appreciate your advice since I am lingering in a sad state and would like to go on with my life. I'm 35, divorced for 2 1/2 years, with a beautiful 6-year old daughter. Generally, my life is good. The only thing that's missing is love. Continue reading "Really Desperate for a Relationship" Are Physical Looks Important? iam 22 years with 5ft7". but i weigh only approx 59kgs and so looks a bit thinner. I love a girl with good looks and figure but i am unable to express my feeling to her as i feel that i am undersize for her and so she may not like me. Continue reading "Are Physical Looks Important?" Sleeping With A Mutual Friend One of my closest friends had a crush on a mutual friend of ours for a few months, but never did anything about it. They talked on the phone occasionally, however she never told him of her feelings. In the meantime I was becoming more and more attracted to him. Continue reading "Sleeping With A Mutual Friend" Looking For Mr. Right Dear Queenie, first of all, I want to say I think your advice is very sound and compassionate and I read your previous columns with great interest. But, none seems to relate to my exact problem. Continue reading "Looking For Mr. Right" Seeking What Should Be Hers I have a problem that has been detrimental to all my relationships. I was raised in a family that punished me for showing any sort of emotional need. I was supposed to be the one who supported everyone else, but I never received any kind of warmth or kindness in return. Continue reading "Seeking What Should Be Hers" Looking for Mr. Perfect I am in my twenties and have dated many guys. At first I always seem to be interested and have fun with them, but after a couple of months I become bored. I don't know if it is me or just the guys I date. Continue reading "Looking for Mr. Perfect"