Dear Queenie: Advice for an Imperfect World: Letting Go Archives

Wasting Her Love On A Dog

I had been dating Romeo on and off for about 4 years. After graduation, I moved 5 hours away to put him behind me and go to school. At any rate we got in contact again. He would be in my life for a while and then disapear for a couple of weeks or months at a time. He constantly told me how much he loved me and how much he wanted us to get married. I kept thinking I had done wrong by moving away and contimplated moving back each time things got better.

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The Relationship Is Cooling Down

I've been dating a guy for a year and we have been living together for 6 months now. He is great, we have lots in common. I've been feeling a little worried lately that he has lost interest in me. He tries to make me feel like he wants me to stay around, but then when he talks with his friends his attitude changes. One day he says he wants to marry me, then I over hear him telling his friend that I keep pushing him to get married.

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Taking Time To Grieve

i have recently split up with a man that i thought i was in love with, we were very happy most of the time. but he had a friend that died a year before i met him, they where very close. i felt that he had not had much time to gieve, and wanted to support him. we talked lots about her, and death, it made me very sad. sad for a girl to die so young, and sad for her family.

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Will He Come Back to Her?

My partner of 17 years out of the blue just said he was leaving he is 31 this year and i have turned 32 we have two girls 9 & 5.

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Living Separate Lives

I'm 46. My wife (37) divorced me last year after 5 years. Second marriage for both. I had adopted her daughter and we had a child together - they're 8 and 5. Reason: just didn't want to be married; wanted her own space, etc...

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When He's Gone, He's Gone

I have relationship problems. I'm 21 years old and believed to found the love love of my live. I have been seeing this guy that I really adore for a long time a little over a year and half. The only thing wrong about our relationship was that he lived so far away however we did mange to keep in touch and keep our relationship alive.

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She Wants Him Back

Dear queenie, i had been dating a guy for 2 years, and he was great. we spent as much time together as we could but it never seemed to be enough. we always wanted to see each other more. as time went on, we grew closer, and i really began to love him.

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Unconditional Love?

Hi there, My name is Jake and 26 yrs old. I have been going out w/ this girl for almost 6 yrs, we met in college. She broke up w/ me because of some very poor excuses: I won't make more money than her, I'll never get a job in NYC, I'm white and shes Asian. Less than a month after the breakup, she has a new boyfriend who looks like me! Except that he makes 70k more than I do.

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Should She Leave Him Alone?

My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago. I really don't get why. he tells me it is because he doesn't know himslef and he needs to go find himself. then the next thing i know he tells me that he isn't sure if i am the one. i don't want to get married quite yet. not for a couple of years.

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Can They Be Friends?

"My girlfriend of 3 years just recently drop the news that she wanted a break up, her reason behind it was that she needed space and time for herself. We haven't seen each other for over a week and recently we got together and went out as a group with a couple of friends, I tried to dance with her and talk as friends should, but she keeps on rejecting me when we are in public, but when we talk on the phone she is very interested in me.

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Broken Engagement

I recently was let go by my girlfriend. We were engaged and I broke it off because I didn't feel like she was the right one for me. Then she convinced me to move back in with her and things went back very quickly to the way they were.

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Regaining Trust

hello, great web site! i was wondering if you could tell me how to gain someones trust back if it has been lost? Also, when an ex of 3 yrs says he needs "time" to see if he wants to trust me again... should i call him daliy and remind him i am still there waiting or let him call the shots...please help. Thank you! -- Stephanie

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Can't Forget

Dear Queenie, I broke up with my live-in boyfriend more then 8 months ago and we haven't spoken since. Even though he is a cheating jerk, I still miss him and I cry almost everyday. I even dream about him.

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Dear Queenie: Advice for an Imperfect World Let's face it, if this was a perfect world, I'd be sitting under a beach umbrella, sipping a pina colada, watching buff bods play volleyball. But, this world is far from perfect. So, for now, the beach and buff bods will have to wait. I will, however, sip a pina colada or two as I ponder the best advice for your situation if your love life is in the dumpster.
Questions? Ask Queenie Go to Queenie Home Topics Abusive Relationships And More... Breaking Up Is Hard To Do Can This Marriage Be Saved? Can This Relationship Work? Cheating Side Of Town Cyber Love Forgiving Friends To Lovers He's Married, She's Not Is It Truly Over? Letting Go Looking For Love Midlife Madness Sexually Speaking... Stay Or Go? Torn Between Two Lovers Younger Man, Older Woman	Wasting Her Love On A Dog I had been dating Romeo on and off for about 4 years. After graduation, I moved 5 hours away to put him behind me and go to school. At any rate we got in contact again. He would be in my life for a while and then disapear for a couple of weeks or months at a time. He constantly told me how much he loved me and how much he wanted us to get married. I kept thinking I had done wrong by moving away and contimplated moving back each time things got better. Continue reading "Wasting Her Love On A Dog" The Relationship Is Cooling Down I've been dating a guy for a year and we have been living together for 6 months now. He is great, we have lots in common. I've been feeling a little worried lately that he has lost interest in me. He tries to make me feel like he wants me to stay around, but then when he talks with his friends his attitude changes. One day he says he wants to marry me, then I over hear him telling his friend that I keep pushing him to get married. Continue reading "The Relationship Is Cooling Down" Taking Time To Grieve i have recently split up with a man that i thought i was in love with, we were very happy most of the time. but he had a friend that died a year before i met him, they where very close. i felt that he had not had much time to gieve, and wanted to support him. we talked lots about her, and death, it made me very sad. sad for a girl to die so young, and sad for her family. Continue reading "Taking Time To Grieve" Will He Come Back to Her? My partner of 17 years out of the blue just said he was leaving he is 31 this year and i have turned 32 we have two girls 9 & 5. Continue reading "Will He Come Back to Her?" Living Separate Lives I'm 46. My wife (37) divorced me last year after 5 years. Second marriage for both. I had adopted her daughter and we had a child together - they're 8 and 5. Reason: just didn't want to be married; wanted her own space, etc... Continue reading "Living Separate Lives" When He's Gone, He's Gone I have relationship problems. I'm 21 years old and believed to found the love love of my live. I have been seeing this guy that I really adore for a long time a little over a year and half. The only thing wrong about our relationship was that he lived so far away however we did mange to keep in touch and keep our relationship alive. Continue reading "When He's Gone, He's Gone" She Wants Him Back Dear queenie, i had been dating a guy for 2 years, and he was great. we spent as much time together as we could but it never seemed to be enough. we always wanted to see each other more. as time went on, we grew closer, and i really began to love him. Continue reading "She Wants Him Back" Unconditional Love? Hi there, My name is Jake and 26 yrs old. I have been going out w/ this girl for almost 6 yrs, we met in college. She broke up w/ me because of some very poor excuses: I won't make more money than her, I'll never get a job in NYC, I'm white and shes Asian. Less than a month after the breakup, she has a new boyfriend who looks like me! Except that he makes 70k more than I do. Continue reading "Unconditional Love?" Should She Leave Him Alone? My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago. I really don't get why. he tells me it is because he doesn't know himslef and he needs to go find himself. then the next thing i know he tells me that he isn't sure if i am the one. i don't want to get married quite yet. not for a couple of years. Continue reading "Should She Leave Him Alone?" Can They Be Friends? "My girlfriend of 3 years just recently drop the news that she wanted a break up, her reason behind it was that she needed space and time for herself. We haven't seen each other for over a week and recently we got together and went out as a group with a couple of friends, I tried to dance with her and talk as friends should, but she keeps on rejecting me when we are in public, but when we talk on the phone she is very interested in me. Continue reading "Can They Be Friends?" Broken Engagement I recently was let go by my girlfriend. We were engaged and I broke it off because I didn't feel like she was the right one for me. Then she convinced me to move back in with her and things went back very quickly to the way they were. Continue reading "Broken Engagement" Regaining Trust hello, great web site! i was wondering if you could tell me how to gain someones trust back if it has been lost? Also, when an ex of 3 yrs says he needs "time" to see if he wants to trust me again... should i call him daliy and remind him i am still there waiting or let him call the shots...please help. Thank you! -- Stephanie Continue reading "Regaining Trust" Can't Forget Dear Queenie, I broke up with my live-in boyfriend more then 8 months ago and we haven't spoken since. Even though he is a cheating jerk, I still miss him and I cry almost everyday. I even dream about him. Continue reading "Can't Forget"