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Is She Really Over The Other Guy?

Hi, this is Joe again from the recent "Is the Old Boyfriend History?" Again thank you for your excellent reply. Was hoping to entice you into helping me with a further large question, and to briefly give you the interesting interval history.

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Is It All About the Chase?

I am 31. I got out of a 4 1/2 year relationship and then I met a really great woman. We really hit it off and things went fast. I was only 6 months out of my previous relationship and already I was wrapped up in another one.

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She's Taking A Break From Their Relationship

My women tells me she needs time to get her thoughts togeother, we have been with each other for 4 yrs. I had her 21 yrs old son living with me and I had to tell him he had to leave. we do not live with each other she live in X and I live in Y. Is this her way of trying to let me down easy. she tell me that she love me but she just needs a little time think things out. -- Jesse

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Flirting With Disaster

I have been happily married for 14 years to a wonderful man who treats me like gold. I am crazy in love with him. My problem is prior to getting married I had a terrible 9 year relationship with my first love. He treated me like dirt, cheated lied etc.

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Just Friends?

My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for four years then he suddenly decided he wanted some space. Recently he said it was over altogether but I miss his company in the evenings. I would like him back but he wants to be friends. Is this possible after seeing someone for this amount of time and would it work? -- Kymme

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Dating A Busy Single Mom

I have been in a lovers relationship for about 3 months now. The relationship grew rapidly I think maybe too fast. We honestly love each other but know it can't go any further right now.

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Six Year Relationship Over?

Dear Queenie, I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years, we had a great relationship, we love each other a lot. A month ago we were talking about both feeling that our relationship was not going anywhere. I told him that I knew what I wanted and he said that he didn't know why after 6 years he didn't have the feeling or the need of marrying me.

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Can She Get Him To Reconsider?

Dear Queenie, I met this guy (Tom) six years ago, very intense, we got on well, I loved everything about and same back. Tom is now 47 and I am 35. He is divorced (bitter) and 2 daughters.

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Shouldn't She At Least Try?

Dear Queenie, I have been seperated from my fiancee for 6 months and we have a 4 yr old son. I want her to have councilling with me but she is happy with her new life without me. I know she still has strong feelings for me and we had a reasonable 7.5 years together. What should I do to persuade her to at least try?

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Is the Marriage Over?

Dear Queenie, I have been separated for over a year. I still love my husband, while recognizing both his faults and good points. My husband loves me, I think, at some level, but does not want to spend time with me or try to get back together.

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Wanted To Be A Normal Teenager

Dear Queenie, 2 weeks ago my girlfriend (17yrs) and me (23yrs) broke up after 2 and a half years together. Her reasons for breaking up were that she wasn’t in love with me anymore, she didn’t want to be in a relationship and she just wanted to act like a normal teenager.

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Can She Get Him Back?

I had a boyfriend of 6 years who recently broke up with me, said he needed time. He has a friend who is a girl that they both feel that they have feelings for each other because they spend so much time together.

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Re-kindling the Relationship

Hi. i'm a 22 yr old guy. ive been with my girlfreind for 2 years and we've got on great. she's just got back from a 2 week-long trip (i missd her alot, the longest we've been apart) and ignores me and is just generally off towards me.

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Scared of Commitment

So here goes...my boyfriend is in a mess. He thinks he's scared of the big commitment thing-don't get me wromg i'm not one of those pressurising women that can't wait to get a rock on my finger, i'm in no rush. Everything commitment move ie.moving in together, setting up a joint account has been his idea, which i've gladly gone with because for me he is the one- (at least i hoped so!).

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He Needed 'Space'

Recently my boyfriend decided that he needed some space. We have been dating for 3 and a half years. We have talked about marriage and having kids. I really thought that we would spend the rest of our lives together. I recently found out that I was pregnant. I told him and he was shocked.

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She loves him as a friend

Hi i am not sure if youve answered a question or problem like this but here it goes. there is a girl that i love. we have not been "going out" for about 3 months but remain friends and even lovers. the only problem i have is that she has said that she doesn't love me as per say a boyfriend but more a friend and has since gotten with her ex whom treated her like dirt and has a girlfriend which she knows about.

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Dear Queenie: Advice for an Imperfect World Let's face it, if this was a perfect world, I'd be sitting under a beach umbrella, sipping a pina colada, watching buff bods play volleyball. But, this world is far from perfect. So, for now, the beach and buff bods will have to wait. I will, however, sip a pina colada or two as I ponder the best advice for your situation if your love life is in the dumpster.
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Continue reading "Is It All About the Chase?" She's Taking A Break From Their Relationship My women tells me she needs time to get her thoughts togeother, we have been with each other for 4 yrs. I had her 21 yrs old son living with me and I had to tell him he had to leave. we do not live with each other she live in X and I live in Y. Is this her way of trying to let me down easy. she tell me that she love me but she just needs a little time think things out. -- Jesse Continue reading "She's Taking A Break From Their Relationship" Flirting With Disaster I have been happily married for 14 years to a wonderful man who treats me like gold. I am crazy in love with him. My problem is prior to getting married I had a terrible 9 year relationship with my first love. He treated me like dirt, cheated lied etc. Continue reading "Flirting With Disaster" Just Friends? My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for four years then he suddenly decided he wanted some space. Recently he said it was over altogether but I miss his company in the evenings. I would like him back but he wants to be friends. Is this possible after seeing someone for this amount of time and would it work? -- Kymme Continue reading "Just Friends?" Dating A Busy Single Mom I have been in a lovers relationship for about 3 months now. The relationship grew rapidly I think maybe too fast. We honestly love each other but know it can't go any further right now. Continue reading "Dating A Busy Single Mom" Six Year Relationship Over? Dear Queenie, I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years, we had a great relationship, we love each other a lot. A month ago we were talking about both feeling that our relationship was not going anywhere. I told him that I knew what I wanted and he said that he didn't know why after 6 years he didn't have the feeling or the need of marrying me. Continue reading "Six Year Relationship Over?" Can She Get Him To Reconsider? Dear Queenie, I met this guy (Tom) six years ago, very intense, we got on well, I loved everything about and same back. Tom is now 47 and I am 35. He is divorced (bitter) and 2 daughters. Continue reading "Can She Get Him To Reconsider?" Shouldn't She At Least Try? Dear Queenie, I have been seperated from my fiancee for 6 months and we have a 4 yr old son. I want her to have councilling with me but she is happy with her new life without me. I know she still has strong feelings for me and we had a reasonable 7.5 years together. What should I do to persuade her to at least try? Continue reading "Shouldn't She At Least Try?" Is the Marriage Over? Dear Queenie, I have been separated for over a year. I still love my husband, while recognizing both his faults and good points. My husband loves me, I think, at some level, but does not want to spend time with me or try to get back together. Continue reading "Is the Marriage Over?" Wanted To Be A Normal Teenager Dear Queenie, 2 weeks ago my girlfriend (17yrs) and me (23yrs) broke up after 2 and a half years together. Her reasons for breaking up were that she wasn’t in love with me anymore, she didn’t want to be in a relationship and she just wanted to act like a normal teenager. Continue reading "Wanted To Be A Normal Teenager" Can She Get Him Back? I had a boyfriend of 6 years who recently broke up with me, said he needed time. He has a friend who is a girl that they both feel that they have feelings for each other because they spend so much time together. Continue reading "Can She Get Him Back?" Re-kindling the Relationship Hi. i'm a 22 yr old guy. ive been with my girlfreind for 2 years and we've got on great. she's just got back from a 2 week-long trip (i missd her alot, the longest we've been apart) and ignores me and is just generally off towards me. Continue reading "Re-kindling the Relationship" Scared of Commitment So here goes...my boyfriend is in a mess. He thinks he's scared of the big commitment thing-don't get me wromg i'm not one of those pressurising women that can't wait to get a rock on my finger, i'm in no rush. Everything commitment move ie.moving in together, setting up a joint account has been his idea, which i've gladly gone with because for me he is the one- (at least i hoped so!). Continue reading "Scared of Commitment" He Needed 'Space' Recently my boyfriend decided that he needed some space. We have been dating for 3 and a half years. We have talked about marriage and having kids. I really thought that we would spend the rest of our lives together. I recently found out that I was pregnant. I told him and he was shocked. Continue reading "He Needed 'Space'" She loves him as a friend Hi i am not sure if youve answered a question or problem like this but here it goes. there is a girl that i love. we have not been "going out" for about 3 months but remain friends and even lovers. the only problem i have is that she has said that she doesn't love me as per say a boyfriend but more a friend and has since gotten with her ex whom treated her like dirt and has a girlfriend which she knows about. Continue reading "She loves him as a friend"