Dear Queenie: Advice for an Imperfect World: Cheating Side Of Town Archives

She's In His Will?

My high school sweetheart and I starting dating again about 3 years ago--both divorced. We see each other almost every day: dinner, movies, trips, events etc. I love her completely and date no others. Our sex life is awesome.

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Attracted To A Married Man: VI

Hey Queenie!! I hope all is well with you!! I just wanted to stop by and give you an update!

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Only Friends?

Just found out there is a women who is coming on to my bf. he has told her he wants to only be friends because he is with me. but she is trying to get him to call her. telling him to call when i am a sleep or go out so she can tell him what she wants to do to him. sending him pic of her boobs and storys of them having sex and asking him to call her and meet her.

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Attracted To A Married Man: Part IV

Well since you give yourself so little credit.... Had you ACTUALLY listended to me instead of judging me, you would have seen that your advice did play a part in the final decision.

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Attracted To A Married Man: Part III

Hi. First off let me say thank you again. I appreciate your advice!!! Now (please) let me continue with my saga:

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Attracted To A Married Man: Part II

Hey Queenie: Thanks for the quick reply and the great advice!! I took it to heart!!! I broke up with him the next time I saw him (last Friday night), after we both agonized over it for hours. We talked about everything that we felt was so right but we knew was so wrong!!!

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Confess Or Keep Quiet?

Dear Queenie, I have read a large number of your answers concerning this topic, but I have been unable to find any situation similar enough to my own to feel that my question was answered. I hope that you will not find this email too long to post, because a response would mean the world to me. I do not have friends who I can confide in. My boyfriend is my best friend, and I have not talked to him about this, for reasons which will become obvious.

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And Baby Makes Three

My boyfriend but also my baby-daddy says i never keep promises sometime I do break promises but he have cheated on me at least 6 times and I have forgave him I love him and I really want to be with him, and he also think it's ok if he can have female friends but I can't have guy friends. what should I do. -- Ashley

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Loving A Married Man

Why does everyone condemn loving a married man? Haven't people ever heard of divorce or 2nd marriages? Often military men marry young because of inexperience when they go overseas. For the woman, the desire is often to come to the States. One day the boy grows up and realizes that lust is not love, and this marriage is not working.

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The Third Wheel In Her Marriage

Ive been having an affair with a married woman for over 10 years now. She keeps insisting that she will leave her husband of 16-years but ALWAYS comes up with creative excuses not to. I continue to wait at home alone for her while she spends most weekends and all holidays (some vacations) with him.

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Could She Change?

I broke up with my girlfriend a few days ago because I felt that she was lying to me about alot of things. She does drugs and hangs out in bars on a regular basis and prefers to go to these places without me. She says that she does not want the burden of having to be attentive to me around her friends.

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Best Friends And A Lot More

My question is, I have had this best friend for 12 years, her and I are very close, We would have been together if I hadn't moved around so much. As the years went on we went our way's, both of us thinking that we wouldn't find no one settled for someone else. Her marraige didn't work, after 5 yrs, and well, knowing that she was now married I settled for a old flame.

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Two Kisses And You're Out

Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. Things were perfect until I went on a girls night out and kissed another guy. I don't know why I did it, I think that the spark was dying off a bit, and I totally regret it. But I did it again on another girls night out and so I confessed to my boyfriend because I believe honesty is essential and I hoped we could start afresh.

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Married Men and Married Women

Why do married men enjoy sleeping with married woman ? I heard it is because they don't have to support them and that a married men give woman what they are lacking in there lives. -- Diane

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Her Husband And His Girlfriend

My boyfriend of 8 years and husband of two years, has decided to leave me pregnant for his girlfriend. She has already moved in our home and now he issists he wants to go to birthing classes and be there for the birth of our child.

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Playing With Fire

I am a married woman recently having a mild flirtation/sexual type hugging with a married co worker..this has been happening for about two weeks now, in a closed room at work.

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Someone To Grow Old With

Hi Queenie im not sur eif you can help me but i have a dilemma that has been bugging me for about 6 months now. Well ill start from the begining. I am 22yrs old Female been with my boyfriend for 6 years nearly who is 31years old.

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Talk Is Cheap

Dear Queenie, the man I am living with is cheating on me. He is supposed to be my fiancée, but I have called it off. I feel that our relationship is unusual in the fact that we still are together most of the time, we still have a physical relationship, he tells me he loves me, that I am beautiful, ect, but there is this "other" person.

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Just Leave?

My husband and I have been married for two years, in July he confessed to having sex w/ a lady he works with. I told him I loved him and that I want to work it out.

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The Past Is Back To Haunt Him

My wife and i have been married 16 years, our first year of marriage was total hell (mostly my fault) because i was in the USMC and she was in college.. i was unfaithful and she found out, so she then started jumping into bed with anything that would drop his pants...

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Part Two

Dear Queenie, part two of my story: I broke things off with my guy, and have told him I don't want to see him as it cuts me up, but, one day we can be friends again. However, he won't stop texting me and he will come over and try and hug me and kiss me on the cheek-it makes me feel really uncomfortable and I try and back away. I am sure he is aware of this.

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She Feels Like She's The "Other Woman"

Hi Queenie, I have been seeing this kind caring guy for 18 months. We have a lot of laughs together. Only one big problem, he is from a different race with a different religion to myself. I have felt shut out as i have not been invited into his life.

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Has She Really Forgiven Him?

I have been in a relationship for almost 11 years. We have 3 kids together. I know he loves me but he cheated while I was pregnant with our third child. I now question him about everything, complain when he goes anywhere.

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Who Should She Believe?

Dear Queenie, my husband and I have been married for two years, together for three and a half. We were together for about 5 months whenever we found out that i had gotten pregnant. We were very happy until then.

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He Has A Girlfriend

Dear Queenie, I have a problem. I have been seeing this guy for about 4 months and he has a girlfriend. I really like him. He is everything I have ever wanted.

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His Wife Can't "Get Over It"

Dear Queenie: Should I just leave? About 5 months ago I cheated on my wife through her so called womans intuition she put 2&2 together and found out. Now she just can drop it every now and again out of the clear blue she gos off about it.

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Husband Cheating With Roommate

Dear Queenie, I recently got back from visiting my family to find out that my husband has cheated on me with our roommate. The other part was her boyfriend was in on it too.

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Depression After Affair?

Six months ago my husband of 10 years (we have a child together) came to me and told me that he had an a affair with our roommate and close friend.

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She's Slept With a Married Man

O.K, I've slept with a married man who's the cousin of my best friend. He's been after me for at least a year and at first I ignored all of his passes. Well recently we saw each other and exchanged numbers.

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They're both married

I am torn between boyfriend and hubby. Boyfriend says he loves me more then anything in the world and I love him. He is married, we are in love, but do not know how to break the news to hubby. Do not want to hurt either one of them. What should I do to break the news to hubby.

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She's Fallen Out of Lust

I have fallen out of lust with my husband of 16 years, and know find myself thinking about a male friend who is a lot slimmer and more attractive than my husband. I am finding it very hard to rekindle any sort of sexual feelings for my husband now. What can I do? -- Flo

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This Time It's Different For Him

I met a married man a few months ago, I know he has feelings for me, but not strong enough to leave his wife. He calls every day to check on me. He made a mistake by not calling me when he said he was going to once, so I avoided his calls, no longer wanting this relationship to continue.

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Cheating Out of Boredom?

Queenie, I am 25 years old and have been married 1 year and 2 months. The man I am married to was the most amazing guy I had ever met before we married. About 1 month after we were married, I went to visit my family he thought I would stay the night as they live 180 miles away. I decided to come home, and his ex girlfriend called our house at 12:30 in the morning.

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Cheated On Military Boyfriend

Desperate please help, My boyfriend is in the millitary and currently overseas recently I cheated on him and had to tell him out of guilt and fear of him hearing from someone else.

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Dirty Dancing

Hi, I went away for the weekend to go snowboarding. When I got back my boyfriend of 4 years had already called me. I thought it was to see how my trip went. He seemed normal but I asked him what he did on the weekend. I already knew that he was planning to get drunk one night. I asked him if he went to the bar. He said yes. I asked who he danced with, he said "I don't remember."

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Approval to Cheat?

Hello, Queenie: When my wife and I were dating about 10 years ago, she used to say that if one of us was ever disabled, the other one should be free to pursue other sexual partners.

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Can She Trust Him?

My husband has been cheating for about years... He told me he was traveling for business but I have found out he has been traveling to another state to be with this woman and her daughter... I never thought he would do that to me and our three boys...

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Habitual Cheater

If a guy has a pattern of habitually cheating on every woman he has ever been with for 20 years do you believe they can change that pattern without therapy or counseling? -- Mary

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High School Love

I am a 45 yr old woman, married 22 yrs with one child. I know I love my husband and he loves me, but....back in HS (where I met my husband) there was another guy. We were very close "buddies" back in those days, and even said we cared more for each other on one occassion, back then. He often told me I was the one for him and that I broke his heart. He let all our circle of friends know how he felt, yet, we remained close friends.

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Trust Issues

My boyfriend and i met while travelling last year. We have both come home and continued out relationship. Only porblem is that we dont get to spend alot of time with each other. And only get to see each other every Saturday evening untill Sunday evening.

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Affair With a Friend

Following 5 years of marriage and 4 children my wife had an affair with a friend. The affair was exposed and then she lied about the sex for a period of 36 years, now I am aware and am wondering what to do. Remember the trust, loyalty, humility, insult, and dispair is gone.

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They're Married to Others

Well let me begin by thanking you for your advice ..... now to the questions .... and let me begin by saying: I am seperated from my wife and have been for months. I have been on a new job for over a year, and while working have meet and fell in love with one of our dept. heads.

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Court Martial?

About a month ago, I confimed that my wife was indeed invloved with a man that was part of her past prior to our marriage. We are both activated reservists, serving in different locations and this man was assigned to her unit.

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Office Flirt?

I found out that a married woman from my lover of 7 years office has been leaving "flitatious" messages on his cell phone. He insists its all about work, but my gut says otherwise. How should I handle this? -- Tara

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Sneaking Around on His Wife

I have had this friend for 14 years, he dated my best friend in High School, he lived with me and my husband for awhile, he was the best man in my wedding 10 years ago, and my husband, at the time, was his best man. He married a girl that none of us knew.

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She Was in the Next Room

I just found out that my fience of six years and the father of my three year old has cheated on me with more than twenty girls, one nite it was with three strippers. he has also informed me that most of the time i was right in the next room.

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Cheated with Close Friend

My now husband just told me he cheated on me with a close friend. The problem is we were dating at the time and I was also pregnant and he knew it. But they kept on until they finally decided to quit. He told me the reason was that he missed the beginning of a relationship feeling.

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Is He Cheating with his Ex?

I have been with my current boyfriend, officially, for 5 months. Before that he was cheating on his last girlfriend, of 2 years, with me. I now live with him because I had a fire in my condo, so I moved in with him. I am worried about his relationship with his ex-girlfriend.

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An Emotional Threesome

I was dating this girl off and on some time back, but she eventually went back to her old boyfriend. Now we have started talking again, and her and her boyfriend have been fighting allot lately. To the point where she comes to me crying, but at the same time saying that she loves him and she wishes she didn't.

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Should She Tell?

I need to know if I should tell my boyfriend that I had sex with his close friend. It was a huge mistake. We were both drunk and otherwise impaired, and during and afterward, I cried and freaked out about the fact that it was happening. I did not initiate it, but I didn't stop it, either. I went along.

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He's scared she'll cheat again

I started dating a guy I had been friends with for two years. We were exactly alike in our personalities and the way we handled relationships; we never had real relationships or even fallen in love. We just played with people, only getting what we wanted.

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Dear Queenie: Advice for an Imperfect World Let's face it, if this was a perfect world, I'd be sitting under a beach umbrella, sipping a pina colada, watching buff bods play volleyball. But, this world is far from perfect. So, for now, the beach and buff bods will have to wait. I will, however, sip a pina colada or two as I ponder the best advice for your situation if your love life is in the dumpster.
Questions? Ask Queenie Go to Queenie Home Topics Abusive Relationships And More... Breaking Up Is Hard To Do Can This Marriage Be Saved? Can This Relationship Work? Cheating Side Of Town Cyber Love Forgiving Friends To Lovers He's Married, She's Not Is It Truly Over? Letting Go Looking For Love Midlife Madness Sexually Speaking... Stay Or Go? Torn Between Two Lovers Younger Man, Older Woman	She's In His Will? My high school sweetheart and I starting dating again about 3 years ago--both divorced. We see each other almost every day: dinner, movies, trips, events etc. I love her completely and date no others. Our sex life is awesome. Continue reading "She's In His Will?" Attracted To A Married Man: VI Hey Queenie!! I hope all is well with you!! I just wanted to stop by and give you an update! Continue reading "Attracted To A Married Man: VI" Only Friends? Just found out there is a women who is coming on to my bf. he has told her he wants to only be friends because he is with me. but she is trying to get him to call her. telling him to call when i am a sleep or go out so she can tell him what she wants to do to him. sending him pic of her boobs and storys of them having sex and asking him to call her and meet her. Continue reading "Only Friends?" Attracted To A Married Man: Part IV Well since you give yourself so little credit.... Had you ACTUALLY listended to me instead of judging me, you would have seen that your advice did play a part in the final decision. Continue reading "Attracted To A Married Man: Part IV" Attracted To A Married Man: Part III Hi. First off let me say thank you again. I appreciate your advice!!! Now (please) let me continue with my saga: Continue reading "Attracted To A Married Man: Part III" Attracted To A Married Man: Part II Hey Queenie: Thanks for the quick reply and the great advice!! I took it to heart!!! I broke up with him the next time I saw him (last Friday night), after we both agonized over it for hours. We talked about everything that we felt was so right but we knew was so wrong!!! Continue reading "Attracted To A Married Man: Part II" Confess Or Keep Quiet? Dear Queenie, I have read a large number of your answers concerning this topic, but I have been unable to find any situation similar enough to my own to feel that my question was answered. I hope that you will not find this email too long to post, because a response would mean the world to me. I do not have friends who I can confide in. My boyfriend is my best friend, and I have not talked to him about this, for reasons which will become obvious. Continue reading "Confess Or Keep Quiet?" And Baby Makes Three My boyfriend but also my baby-daddy says i never keep promises sometime I do break promises but he have cheated on me at least 6 times and I have forgave him I love him and I really want to be with him, and he also think it's ok if he can have female friends but I can't have guy friends. what should I do. -- Ashley Continue reading "And Baby Makes Three" Loving A Married Man Why does everyone condemn loving a married man? Haven't people ever heard of divorce or 2nd marriages? Often military men marry young because of inexperience when they go overseas. For the woman, the desire is often to come to the States. One day the boy grows up and realizes that lust is not love, and this marriage is not working. Continue reading "Loving A Married Man" The Third Wheel In Her Marriage Ive been having an affair with a married woman for over 10 years now. She keeps insisting that she will leave her husband of 16-years but ALWAYS comes up with creative excuses not to. I continue to wait at home alone for her while she spends most weekends and all holidays (some vacations) with him. Continue reading "The Third Wheel In Her Marriage" Could She Change? I broke up with my girlfriend a few days ago because I felt that she was lying to me about alot of things. She does drugs and hangs out in bars on a regular basis and prefers to go to these places without me. She says that she does not want the burden of having to be attentive to me around her friends. Continue reading "Could She Change?" Best Friends And A Lot More My question is, I have had this best friend for 12 years, her and I are very close, We would have been together if I hadn't moved around so much. As the years went on we went our way's, both of us thinking that we wouldn't find no one settled for someone else. Her marraige didn't work, after 5 yrs, and well, knowing that she was now married I settled for a old flame. Continue reading "Best Friends And A Lot More" Two Kisses And You're Out Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. Things were perfect until I went on a girls night out and kissed another guy. I don't know why I did it, I think that the spark was dying off a bit, and I totally regret it. But I did it again on another girls night out and so I confessed to my boyfriend because I believe honesty is essential and I hoped we could start afresh. Continue reading "Two Kisses And You're Out" Married Men and Married Women Why do married men enjoy sleeping with married woman ? I heard it is because they don't have to support them and that a married men give woman what they are lacking in there lives. -- Diane Continue reading "Married Men and Married Women" Her Husband And His Girlfriend My boyfriend of 8 years and husband of two years, has decided to leave me pregnant for his girlfriend. She has already moved in our home and now he issists he wants to go to birthing classes and be there for the birth of our child. Continue reading "Her Husband And His Girlfriend" Playing With Fire I am a married woman recently having a mild flirtation/sexual type hugging with a married co worker..this has been happening for about two weeks now, in a closed room at work. Continue reading "Playing With Fire" Someone To Grow Old With Hi Queenie im not sur eif you can help me but i have a dilemma that has been bugging me for about 6 months now. Well ill start from the begining. I am 22yrs old Female been with my boyfriend for 6 years nearly who is 31years old. Continue reading "Someone To Grow Old With" Talk Is Cheap Dear Queenie, the man I am living with is cheating on me. He is supposed to be my fiancée, but I have called it off. I feel that our relationship is unusual in the fact that we still are together most of the time, we still have a physical relationship, he tells me he loves me, that I am beautiful, ect, but there is this "other" person. Continue reading "Talk Is Cheap" Just Leave? My husband and I have been married for two years, in July he confessed to having sex w/ a lady he works with. I told him I loved him and that I want to work it out. Continue reading "Just Leave?" The Past Is Back To Haunt Him My wife and i have been married 16 years, our first year of marriage was total hell (mostly my fault) because i was in the USMC and she was in college.. i was unfaithful and she found out, so she then started jumping into bed with anything that would drop his pants... Continue reading "The Past Is Back To Haunt Him" Part Two Dear Queenie, part two of my story: I broke things off with my guy, and have told him I don't want to see him as it cuts me up, but, one day we can be friends again. However, he won't stop texting me and he will come over and try and hug me and kiss me on the cheek-it makes me feel really uncomfortable and I try and back away. I am sure he is aware of this. Continue reading "Part Two" She Feels Like She's The "Other Woman" Hi Queenie, I have been seeing this kind caring guy for 18 months. We have a lot of laughs together. Only one big problem, he is from a different race with a different religion to myself. I have felt shut out as i have not been invited into his life. Continue reading "She Feels Like She's The "Other Woman"" Has She Really Forgiven Him? I have been in a relationship for almost 11 years. We have 3 kids together. I know he loves me but he cheated while I was pregnant with our third child. I now question him about everything, complain when he goes anywhere. Continue reading "Has She Really Forgiven Him?" Who Should She Believe? Dear Queenie, my husband and I have been married for two years, together for three and a half. We were together for about 5 months whenever we found out that i had gotten pregnant. We were very happy until then. Continue reading "Who Should She Believe?" He Has A Girlfriend Dear Queenie, I have a problem. I have been seeing this guy for about 4 months and he has a girlfriend. I really like him. He is everything I have ever wanted. Continue reading "He Has A Girlfriend" His Wife Can't "Get Over It" Dear Queenie: Should I just leave? About 5 months ago I cheated on my wife through her so called womans intuition she put 2&2 together and found out. Now she just can drop it every now and again out of the clear blue she gos off about it. Continue reading "His Wife Can't "Get Over It"" Husband Cheating With Roommate Dear Queenie, I recently got back from visiting my family to find out that my husband has cheated on me with our roommate. The other part was her boyfriend was in on it too. Continue reading "Husband Cheating With Roommate" Depression After Affair? Six months ago my husband of 10 years (we have a child together) came to me and told me that he had an a affair with our roommate and close friend. Continue reading "Depression After Affair?" She's Slept With a Married Man O.K, I've slept with a married man who's the cousin of my best friend. He's been after me for at least a year and at first I ignored all of his passes. Well recently we saw each other and exchanged numbers. Continue reading "She's Slept With a Married Man" They're both married I am torn between boyfriend and hubby. Boyfriend says he loves me more then anything in the world and I love him. He is married, we are in love, but do not know how to break the news to hubby. Do not want to hurt either one of them. What should I do to break the news to hubby. Continue reading "They're both married" She's Fallen Out of Lust I have fallen out of lust with my husband of 16 years, and know find myself thinking about a male friend who is a lot slimmer and more attractive than my husband. I am finding it very hard to rekindle any sort of sexual feelings for my husband now. What can I do? -- Flo Continue reading "She's Fallen Out of Lust" This Time It's Different For Him I met a married man a few months ago, I know he has feelings for me, but not strong enough to leave his wife. He calls every day to check on me. He made a mistake by not calling me when he said he was going to once, so I avoided his calls, no longer wanting this relationship to continue. Continue reading "This Time It's Different For Him" Cheating Out of Boredom? Queenie, I am 25 years old and have been married 1 year and 2 months. The man I am married to was the most amazing guy I had ever met before we married. About 1 month after we were married, I went to visit my family he thought I would stay the night as they live 180 miles away. I decided to come home, and his ex girlfriend called our house at 12:30 in the morning. Continue reading "Cheating Out of Boredom?" Cheated On Military Boyfriend Desperate please help, My boyfriend is in the millitary and currently overseas recently I cheated on him and had to tell him out of guilt and fear of him hearing from someone else. Continue reading "Cheated On Military Boyfriend" Dirty Dancing Hi, I went away for the weekend to go snowboarding. When I got back my boyfriend of 4 years had already called me. I thought it was to see how my trip went. He seemed normal but I asked him what he did on the weekend. I already knew that he was planning to get drunk one night. I asked him if he went to the bar. He said yes. I asked who he danced with, he said "I don't remember." Continue reading "Dirty Dancing" Approval to Cheat? Hello, Queenie: When my wife and I were dating about 10 years ago, she used to say that if one of us was ever disabled, the other one should be free to pursue other sexual partners. Continue reading "Approval to Cheat?" Can She Trust Him? My husband has been cheating for about years... He told me he was traveling for business but I have found out he has been traveling to another state to be with this woman and her daughter... I never thought he would do that to me and our three boys... Continue reading "Can She Trust Him?" Habitual Cheater If a guy has a pattern of habitually cheating on every woman he has ever been with for 20 years do you believe they can change that pattern without therapy or counseling? -- Mary Continue reading "Habitual Cheater" High School Love I am a 45 yr old woman, married 22 yrs with one child. I know I love my husband and he loves me, but....back in HS (where I met my husband) there was another guy. We were very close "buddies" back in those days, and even said we cared more for each other on one occassion, back then. He often told me I was the one for him and that I broke his heart. He let all our circle of friends know how he felt, yet, we remained close friends. Continue reading "High School Love" Trust Issues My boyfriend and i met while travelling last year. We have both come home and continued out relationship. Only porblem is that we dont get to spend alot of time with each other. And only get to see each other every Saturday evening untill Sunday evening. Continue reading "Trust Issues" Affair With a Friend Following 5 years of marriage and 4 children my wife had an affair with a friend. The affair was exposed and then she lied about the sex for a period of 36 years, now I am aware and am wondering what to do. Remember the trust, loyalty, humility, insult, and dispair is gone. Continue reading "Affair With a Friend" They're Married to Others Well let me begin by thanking you for your advice ..... now to the questions .... and let me begin by saying: I am seperated from my wife and have been for months. I have been on a new job for over a year, and while working have meet and fell in love with one of our dept. heads. Continue reading "They're Married to Others" Court Martial? About a month ago, I confimed that my wife was indeed invloved with a man that was part of her past prior to our marriage. We are both activated reservists, serving in different locations and this man was assigned to her unit. Continue reading "Court Martial?" Office Flirt? I found out that a married woman from my lover of 7 years office has been leaving "flitatious" messages on his cell phone. He insists its all about work, but my gut says otherwise. How should I handle this? -- Tara Continue reading "Office Flirt?" Sneaking Around on His Wife I have had this friend for 14 years, he dated my best friend in High School, he lived with me and my husband for awhile, he was the best man in my wedding 10 years ago, and my husband, at the time, was his best man. He married a girl that none of us knew. Continue reading "Sneaking Around on His Wife" She Was in the Next Room I just found out that my fience of six years and the father of my three year old has cheated on me with more than twenty girls, one nite it was with three strippers. he has also informed me that most of the time i was right in the next room. Continue reading "She Was in the Next Room" Cheated with Close Friend My now husband just told me he cheated on me with a close friend. The problem is we were dating at the time and I was also pregnant and he knew it. But they kept on until they finally decided to quit. He told me the reason was that he missed the beginning of a relationship feeling. Continue reading "Cheated with Close Friend" Is He Cheating with his Ex? I have been with my current boyfriend, officially, for 5 months. Before that he was cheating on his last girlfriend, of 2 years, with me. I now live with him because I had a fire in my condo, so I moved in with him. I am worried about his relationship with his ex-girlfriend. Continue reading "Is He Cheating with his Ex?" An Emotional Threesome I was dating this girl off and on some time back, but she eventually went back to her old boyfriend. Now we have started talking again, and her and her boyfriend have been fighting allot lately. To the point where she comes to me crying, but at the same time saying that she loves him and she wishes she didn't. Continue reading "An Emotional Threesome" Should She Tell? I need to know if I should tell my boyfriend that I had sex with his close friend. It was a huge mistake. We were both drunk and otherwise impaired, and during and afterward, I cried and freaked out about the fact that it was happening. I did not initiate it, but I didn't stop it, either. I went along. Continue reading "Should She Tell?" He's scared she'll cheat again I started dating a guy I had been friends with for two years. We were exactly alike in our personalities and the way we handled relationships; we never had real relationships or even fallen in love. We just played with people, only getting what we wanted. Continue reading "He's scared she'll cheat again"