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Sex Without Emotional Intimacy

Dear Queenie: I've had a friend/intimate relationship with a man twelve years older than I for two years. We have both been hurt by two divorces each. We have a terrific intimate relationship but not intimate emotionally. We are both scared but I need more and he told me he can not give more.

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Jailhouse Lover

I have a question about my boyfriend who is in jail and although I've seen your archives, I can't exactly find one to fit this question particularly. My boyfriend and I didn't actually start talking until he had been in jail for a while, but we have been friends for years.

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All Action, No Talk

My boyfriend refuses to tell me that he loves me. He hasnt said it in almost 2 years and it really bothers me. I know he loves me but he just wont say it. He used to but after a few fights early in the relationship, he told me he does not love me.

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She Chose The Wrong Man

My story is long and my question complex due to the past few years. I met two men around the same time frame and chose the one who seemed to be the less of a threat to my heart. I Married him but always harbored feelings for the other who made me feel "scared" you know that feeling you get when you are up high and you look below? I Married the one who made me feel "safe". I realize now why I thought I chose him and cut all ties with the other man (the unsaf one).

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He Wants Her To Want Him

Hello, I need help! I'm madly in love with my girlfriend but she's saying for right now we're just friends. We've been together for one year but have been friends for about three. We were living together during this past year and were engaged. Now, after a not so pretty disagreement, we are living apart from each other. We still talk every day, still see each other almost every day and we even have sex. I do just about anything she asks of me and have apologized more than once.

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A Friendship That's Gone Too Far?

This question is not concerning love, but about the break down of a best friendship. I have known "Lilian" for about 3 1/2 years. I have been through alot w/her. About 2 yrs ago, she was having problems w/ her sister so, I invited her to come live w/me. Throughout this situation, she has hidden the bills from me, constantly being short on money, made bad choices, making plans, then somehow not coming through, in short, she has been a mental drain on me.

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Better Friends Than Spouses

What are we? My "soon to be ex-husband" and I are still in love, but it is impossible for us to be together. His mom hates me, my mom hates him, and we don't live together well. But we are really friendly to each other. We tell each other just about everything. yet there is the "chemistry or lust" betweet us. When we get together to hand out, eventually we head towards the bedroom. I don't find this a problem, but I am feeling confused.

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Should She Spend So Much Time With Her Ex?

Dear Queen, I have been in a wonderful relationship now for 8 months, everything is going great except for one problem i seem to have. i hope that you will be able to give me some information i need to hear.

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Too Friendly With Their Exes?

My boyfriend and I have a great relationship except for one problem: He and I are both divorced and we are both on good terms with our exes. I speak to my ex about once a week on the phone and see him about once a month for lunch.

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Should She Contact The Other Woman?

I've been in a relationship with someone I love deeply for 5 years. I suspect he's also been seeing someone else off and on. Of course, he is of the deny till you die mentality, but my intuition is screaming at me.

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Is He Too Insecure For a Relationship?

Hi, I seperated and divorced from my ex 2 years ago, we were together 21 years, I am 43. 6 weeks after I moved out I met my current boyfriend/fiance, who I fell head over heels about when we met. The problem is that he wants to be with me 24/7, we work together and are with each other at night.

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Star Power

I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now, but the fact that she like this celeb has bugged me, i feel like if he were here, she's eventually leave, or have even STRONGER feelings for him and wouldn't leave me because she's feel sorry about my feelings, I feel like she'd be TONS happier with him, even though she says she wouldn't be, so should i worry about this at all?

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Can She Handle His Baggage?

Hi, I'm 28 years old and been living with a 34 year man for 2 years. We moved in together 2mnths after he separated from his unfaithfull wife of 11 years. He has 2 very young children wich I love deeply as they do me.

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Ugly Rumors

Help!!!!!! My boyfriend of three years has heard rumors of me cheating, but... I havn't!! He says he wants to believe me but its hard to when so many are telling him these things. Not to mention someone has called him and said "your girlfriend hasn't been faithful to you..." What? Who is this guy!

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How Long Will She Wait?

I'm a 34-year old, never-been-married woman who has been dating a 38-year old divorced man for almost three years. He has been divorced for five years and has a 10-year old son. We have a wonderful, loving and trusting relationship (I've met his entire family, gone on vacations with him and his son), but we have hit a plateau in that I want to move the relationship to the next level by getting married but he is hesitant.

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Too Much In Love?

I am 26 and have been dating my girfriend for 3 months i think i have a problem more with myself than her; she is very traditional, cultural and is still a virgin (she is 20 yrs old) that is not my problem actually that is something i love.

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Is He Lying?

My boyfriend and I have been dating since Dec and I got pregnant in Feb. Just recently I was at his house, his phone rang and I answered it. It was a girl on the other end. She hung up on me. She called back on Sunday and told me that she and my boyfriend have been dating since Oct and just broke up in March.

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His Female Roommate

I've been with my boyfriend for about a year & 1/2. He was separated when I first met him and his divorce has been 'final' for a few months now. Overall we have a Great relationship, he treats me like I want to be treated with Respect, as I do the same for him. I believe he does love me and shows me this thru his actions even though he has never said it.

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Starved For Affection

I love my fiance very much. The problem is that he just isn't very affectionate at all and I am. He rarely even touches me. We have great sex but not as often as I would like to. I have tried to give subtle hints without being pushy or needy, but he just wants to watch TV or go to sleep. Even on weekends!

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She Needs Space

I write to you for a better understanding on the woman I am in love with. My biggest problem with her is that whenever I try and talk to her about things that are bothering me, more often than not if it is something she does not want to hear, she gets angry and it turns into a fight.

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Does He Deserve Another Chance?

I guess what I am wanting to know is what should I do? I've been in a relationship with this man for about a year and had many good times with him, although one night we had been drinking and things got out of control. He hit me! I kicked him out and he moved to California.

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Giving His Family The Cold Shoulder

I have been dating my girlfriend for the last 2 years. Marriage has been brought up, but there are two issues that concern me. One is that she does not like to attend my family gatherings, whether they are too large, she doesnt like crowds, of she doesn't like certain people, she won't go.

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Three's A Crowd

I am a 32 year old divorced woman who has been been seeing a wonderful 38 year old man for over a year now that I care for very deeply. He owns a cottage in the northern country where he spends a lot of his time. This is were I met him. Before I met him, he used to bring this girl up to his cottage on the weekends and they used to date frequently.

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Getting Out and Starting Over

I've got a concern w/ a old boyfriend who is getting out soon. He may want to start a relationship again. That's not the problem. What he's in for although the state says it's fine to start a family the Department of Family Services says otherwise.

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In Love In Jail

My fiancee is in jail, and we have never been together in any sort of physical way. The problem is we are both so insecure, but his is making me so sad because I feel there is no way for me to show him how true my love is. How can I show him?

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Scared of Commitment

Hi there I have been dating a man for just over one year 14 months actually. Two weeks ago he dumped me, he said that he loved me very much and that i deserved someone better. I was so upset I wasn't expecting this at all. He told me that he wanted to be alone and free for the rest of his life, I responded that he couldn't really want to be alone forever.

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Feeling Like A Child

Dear Queen of Hearts, I have a major and strange problem with myself in my relationship. I have always been a pretty emotional person. It all started with my childhood. I would cry all of the time.

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Lacking Commitment

Dear Queenie, for four months I have been working my first real job out of college. The hours are terribly long, especially compared to my boyfriend who is a substitute teacher waiting on his orders from the army.

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Long Distance Relationship

I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now. We both went to the same school and lived together and had wonderful times together. Well, last summer he has to move 6 hours away for a job while i had to stay put to finish school.

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Too Much Way Too Soon

OK see their is this guy that i am with right now and i really really like him and right now i don't know if he feels the same way see i have been with him for two weeks and his mom got me to move in with them and i did and now he is acting all mean like to me and i don't know what to do so if you can please help me thank you so much if you can.

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Obsession Or Love?

I met this guy about 5 years ago and we really had this connection, but just could never get together. I really think he felt the connection as much as me, but my problem is I haven't seen this guy in about 3 years and I still think about him all the time.

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From Friends To Lovers

I recently started dating one of my best friends. She is a lovely person who I have been through a lot with but she has always had the tendency to be very moody and temperamental.

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He Needs Space

Me (21) and my boyfriend (23) have been dating for about 4 1/2 months.. we basically lived together and we were always together 24-7. he always talked about marrying me and having kids with me and all these wonderful things.

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Selfish Live-In

Dear Queenie, I have been dating my girlfriend for nearly a year now. Recently, she got herself into a bind and needed a place to stay, so I offered her to stay here for a few weeks.

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Wait For Him To Be Ready?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half years. It has been a long distance relationship for most of that time, although we have had periods where we've spent up to 5 months together.

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Doesn't Want to Hurt Her

Ok.. Been seeing this women for a little over 6 months. She says she loves me but won't sleep with me... I must admit, I have NEVER waited this long for anyone.. Not even for ex's that I was madly in love with.

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Boyfriend's Daughter Disrespectful

Queenie, I'm 42 and my boyfriend of two years is 44. We both have kids and his 18-year old daughter has treated me with such disrespect for about a year and a half. Her Dad (my boyfriend) will not insist she apologize or discipline her so her behavior has gotten progressively worse. We do not live together.

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Does He Still Care?

Dear Queenie, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and we have been engaged for 1 year. Everything was great in the beginning, he was affectionate and I fell for him very quickly but lately he has changed.

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Friendship Over?

I'm not one for asking for advise usually. I have my closest friend of well over ten years dropping me for her work buddies. Who i cant stand. I have tried to get along with them but it all came to a head one evening.

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Worried About Her Sexual History

Hi, i am looking for specific relationship advice. I just got engaged to my fiance, and I am begining to find out more and more specific information about her relationship history. She's been with a lot of guys, from my point of veiw anyways.

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Jealous Boyfriend

Confused and don't know what to do. I am a 23 year old with a 25 year old boyfriend who is constantly accusing me of cheating on him. Since we have been together I have never cheated on him.

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Nightly Phone Calls

I am back together with my ex-boyfriend (we've been broken up for over 3 years now), and he went away to school about a week after we got back together. I don't expect THAT much but I DO enjoy talking to him on a nightly basis. I believe that is what is needed in a long-distance relationship: communnication.

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Unhappy in his new home

My boyfriend and I have moved into a house, it is his old family home which he bought from his parents who have moved just accross the road. I am very unhappy there but he loves the house and won't even consider moving.

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Not ready to live together

My boyfriend and i have been together for about 3 years. Im his first relationship and hes my 4 long term relationship. About a year ago i had mentioned moving in together since im ready and it would be more convieniant since he lives 30 min away.

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Not Spending Enough Time Together

I have been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months and I have realized that over these months it is like he does not want to spend any time with me. I almost feel that he goes out of his way not to spend any time with me.

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He Needs Space

I have been dating this guy for 1 yr. He has told me he needs some space. He says he still wants to be with me we just see too much of eachother (4-5 dys wk.) What type of relationship can you have 1-2 dys a wk?

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Strip Clubs

Dear Queenie, I am struggling to accept the fact that the man I am dating has worked at a strip club and dated only strippers his entire life. He is a very smart, loving man and has never had a good girl, I am wrong for being down on myself for liking this man?

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