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Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?

I hold a very stressful position in the US military which has recently required me to be away from home for months at a time. During these times apart my wife of 6 years has wrongfully accused me many times of cheating. She has been so paranoid that she will randomly call up my friends from work to validate every detail of my story in order to try and catch me in a lie.

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His Child With His Lover

We have been together 9.5 years. Have four beautiful children. He has his career, I have mine. We just built a beautiful dream home and moved in in January. Yet, I come home three weeks ago to find child support papers posted on my door from the Sheriff. Total devastation hit me. I had absolutely no clue. Shame on me for not knowing he had a eight month old little boy.

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Confession Of A Guilty Conscience

My husband cheated on me two weeks before our church wedding in our apartment. We had been married through JP for almost a year at the time. It was about a year ago now and he just told me yesterday because of a guilty conscience. He is a very nice guy and I love him, but what should I do? -- Confused

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His Wife Has A Boyfriend

okay i am married to a lady she had a child by another guy 10 years ago and i raised this child with her and we have a son toghether the problem she talks to this other guy alot and everytime we have an issue she runs back to him he wants her but he does not want the responiabily of all three of them.

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She Wants Out

I feel as if I do not love my husband anymore. I am wanting so bad to live alone. He is a good person and I feel that it would be better for us to be friends. I think he should move out on good terms because if we continue to be together, I know that I will soon leave myself on bad terms. please give me some advice. Thanks. -- Katie

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Slimmer Now and Looking For Compliments

My wife of eighteen years told me quite unexpetedly that she was unhappy and was leaving me for another man. She left with her stuff today. She is thirty five years of age. We married when I was eighteen and she was seventeen. We are not the first for each other. We have two children a twenty year old son, hers from a relationship when she was fourteen and fifteen, and a daughter seventeen born a year after we wed.

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When Is Enough, Enough?

I have known my husband for 8 years, married 4.5 of those. From the very beginning we always had problems about his dishonesty, lieing, flirting with other girls, and really not being a good boy-friend. We accidentally got pregnant, and broke up for a year and a half.

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Can She Trust Him Again?

I married a man who when I met him was separated from his wife. He said he was not happy in the relationship and that she did want to give it a go except he wanted to be with me, now three years into our relationship we are married with a baby I found out he has been in contact with her the whole time, even sending her gifts and a picture of our baby.

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Missing Bracelet Just A Symptom?

My husband and I have been married 28 years. Over the years he has given me gifts of jewelry. I usually don't wear jewelry, not even a watch. His first gift was a pair of small diamond stud earrings for our first anniversary. I had to get my ears pierced in order to wear them. I did not want to hurt his feelings.

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Broken Vows

My husband and I have been married almost two years. He cheated on me so I cheated on him to feel I had some sort of revenge.

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Can He Forgive, Can She Forget?

What should I do? My wife left my 3 kids, and I or I should say abandoned us, right after Christmas. She left straight from our home into the arms of an internet boyfriend.

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He's Jealous Of Her Ex

Hi Queenie, I was married to a man that was not affectionate at all for almost 8 years. We would make love about twice a year. To top it all I fell pregnant and has a 7yr old and 3yr old child from him. I divorced him two years ago.

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Communication Problem

Dear Queenie, my wife and I have been married for five years and together for seven. As all couples do, we have had our rocky times. The problem is that I have let them pass on thinking that all was well, and my wife has not.

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Anything Worth Saving?

Hi, my wife left me and went to live with her parents a year and a half ago, we had only been married about two years when she left. I haven't seen anyone else since she left, and she says neither has she.

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Wants To End Her Marriage

Dear Queenie, I have been married for 3 1/2 years. We have been together for 8 years. My husband is 34 and I am 28. When I got pregnant with our first child, I realized that I was about to be a parent and should start acting more responsible.

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Partying With His Single Friends

Hello, Queenie, I need advice regarding my husband. We have been married for 2 years, however together for five years. We have a 3 year old child also. Up to last year, things were pretty tense for us, and we questioned whether or not we should call it quits.

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Is He Cheating?

My husband cheated on me 7 months ago, but i forgave him and we got back together. our relationship was the best ever. now he is actting the same way. but he says he loves me and is happy. he dont act like it. and he is not a talker. what should i do?

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She Dreams About Someone Else

Queenie, I am going to cut this as short as possible. I am 21 years old and married with a two year old son. I have been married three years. During our three year marriage, my husband and I have separated well over five times.

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Is She Being Used?

Dear Queenie, I've been married for 10 years now, my husband had a back injury almost 4 years ago. He is on social security, but about a year ago he has healed enough to golf. He got a part time job at a golf course 2 days aweek and golfs now every chance he gets.

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Ready to Leave Her Older Husband

Dear Queenie, I read a lot of your columns and I like your answers. My situation is similar to the "Switched Roles" but not exactly. I have been married 10 years to a man 22 years older than me (now I am 40; my first marriage, his third); we have a 3.5-yr.old and a 0.5-yr.old (he also has a 42-yr.old and a 27-yr.old), who was a colleague of my father's.

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He Has Disappeared

I am very confused. my husband and i had some problems. he tried to commit suicide. and then he tried to make me help him of course i refused. then he turned it around and said fine were both going to die and a bunch of bad things took place and he went to jail and from there they sent him to the hospital.

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Married for the Wrong Reason

I am 23 years old and I married a man that at first I didn't love. I had feelings for him and cared for him, but I just wasn't head over heels for him. I married him for stability and to offer my five year old daughter a family.

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Will She Make a Wrong Decision?

Hello. I am recently seperated with a four year old child. My husband and I have been together for seven years. I love him very much but we have differant religous and moral views. He doesn't seem to want to keep a REAL job and I stress out over all the household bills and upkeep while working a full time job.

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Dear Queenie: Advice for an Imperfect World Let's face it, if this was a perfect world, I'd be sitting under a beach umbrella, sipping a pina colada, watching buff bods play volleyball. But, this world is far from perfect. So, for now, the beach and buff bods will have to wait. I will, however, sip a pina colada or two as I ponder the best advice for your situation if your love life is in the dumpster.
Questions? Ask Queenie Go to Queenie Home Topics Abusive Relationships And More... Breaking Up Is Hard To Do Can This Marriage Be Saved? Can This Relationship Work? Cheating Side Of Town Cyber Love Forgiving Friends To Lovers He's Married, She's Not Is It Truly Over? Letting Go Looking For Love Midlife Madness Sexually Speaking... Stay Or Go? Torn Between Two Lovers Younger Man, Older Woman	Self-Fulfilling Prophecy? I hold a very stressful position in the US military which has recently required me to be away from home for months at a time. During these times apart my wife of 6 years has wrongfully accused me many times of cheating. She has been so paranoid that she will randomly call up my friends from work to validate every detail of my story in order to try and catch me in a lie. Continue reading "Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?" His Child With His Lover We have been together 9.5 years. Have four beautiful children. He has his career, I have mine. We just built a beautiful dream home and moved in in January. Yet, I come home three weeks ago to find child support papers posted on my door from the Sheriff. Total devastation hit me. I had absolutely no clue. Shame on me for not knowing he had a eight month old little boy. Continue reading "His Child With His Lover" Confession Of A Guilty Conscience My husband cheated on me two weeks before our church wedding in our apartment. We had been married through JP for almost a year at the time. It was about a year ago now and he just told me yesterday because of a guilty conscience. He is a very nice guy and I love him, but what should I do? -- Confused Continue reading "Confession Of A Guilty Conscience" His Wife Has A Boyfriend okay i am married to a lady she had a child by another guy 10 years ago and i raised this child with her and we have a son toghether the problem she talks to this other guy alot and everytime we have an issue she runs back to him he wants her but he does not want the responiabily of all three of them. Continue reading "His Wife Has A Boyfriend" She Wants Out I feel as if I do not love my husband anymore. I am wanting so bad to live alone. He is a good person and I feel that it would be better for us to be friends. I think he should move out on good terms because if we continue to be together, I know that I will soon leave myself on bad terms. please give me some advice. Thanks. -- Katie Continue reading "She Wants Out" Slimmer Now and Looking For Compliments My wife of eighteen years told me quite unexpetedly that she was unhappy and was leaving me for another man. She left with her stuff today. She is thirty five years of age. We married when I was eighteen and she was seventeen. We are not the first for each other. We have two children a twenty year old son, hers from a relationship when she was fourteen and fifteen, and a daughter seventeen born a year after we wed. Continue reading "Slimmer Now and Looking For Compliments" When Is Enough, Enough? I have known my husband for 8 years, married 4.5 of those. From the very beginning we always had problems about his dishonesty, lieing, flirting with other girls, and really not being a good boy-friend. We accidentally got pregnant, and broke up for a year and a half. Continue reading "When Is Enough, Enough?" Can She Trust Him Again? I married a man who when I met him was separated from his wife. He said he was not happy in the relationship and that she did want to give it a go except he wanted to be with me, now three years into our relationship we are married with a baby I found out he has been in contact with her the whole time, even sending her gifts and a picture of our baby. Continue reading "Can She Trust Him Again?" Missing Bracelet Just A Symptom? My husband and I have been married 28 years. Over the years he has given me gifts of jewelry. I usually don't wear jewelry, not even a watch. His first gift was a pair of small diamond stud earrings for our first anniversary. I had to get my ears pierced in order to wear them. I did not want to hurt his feelings. Continue reading "Missing Bracelet Just A Symptom?" Broken Vows My husband and I have been married almost two years. He cheated on me so I cheated on him to feel I had some sort of revenge. Continue reading "Broken Vows" Can He Forgive, Can She Forget? What should I do? My wife left my 3 kids, and I or I should say abandoned us, right after Christmas. She left straight from our home into the arms of an internet boyfriend. Continue reading "Can He Forgive, Can She Forget?" He's Jealous Of Her Ex Hi Queenie, I was married to a man that was not affectionate at all for almost 8 years. We would make love about twice a year. To top it all I fell pregnant and has a 7yr old and 3yr old child from him. I divorced him two years ago. Continue reading "He's Jealous Of Her Ex" Communication Problem Dear Queenie, my wife and I have been married for five years and together for seven. As all couples do, we have had our rocky times. The problem is that I have let them pass on thinking that all was well, and my wife has not. Continue reading "Communication Problem" Anything Worth Saving? Hi, my wife left me and went to live with her parents a year and a half ago, we had only been married about two years when she left. I haven't seen anyone else since she left, and she says neither has she. Continue reading "Anything Worth Saving?" Wants To End Her Marriage Dear Queenie, I have been married for 3 1/2 years. We have been together for 8 years. My husband is 34 and I am 28. When I got pregnant with our first child, I realized that I was about to be a parent and should start acting more responsible. Continue reading "Wants To End Her Marriage" Partying With His Single Friends Hello, Queenie, I need advice regarding my husband. We have been married for 2 years, however together for five years. We have a 3 year old child also. Up to last year, things were pretty tense for us, and we questioned whether or not we should call it quits. Continue reading "Partying With His Single Friends" Is He Cheating? My husband cheated on me 7 months ago, but i forgave him and we got back together. our relationship was the best ever. now he is actting the same way. but he says he loves me and is happy. he dont act like it. and he is not a talker. what should i do? Continue reading "Is He Cheating?" She Dreams About Someone Else Queenie, I am going to cut this as short as possible. I am 21 years old and married with a two year old son. I have been married three years. During our three year marriage, my husband and I have separated well over five times. Continue reading "She Dreams About Someone Else" Is She Being Used? Dear Queenie, I've been married for 10 years now, my husband had a back injury almost 4 years ago. He is on social security, but about a year ago he has healed enough to golf. He got a part time job at a golf course 2 days aweek and golfs now every chance he gets. Continue reading "Is She Being Used?" Ready to Leave Her Older Husband Dear Queenie, I read a lot of your columns and I like your answers. My situation is similar to the "Switched Roles" but not exactly. I have been married 10 years to a man 22 years older than me (now I am 40; my first marriage, his third); we have a 3.5-yr.old and a 0.5-yr.old (he also has a 42-yr.old and a 27-yr.old), who was a colleague of my father's. Continue reading "Ready to Leave Her Older Husband" He Has Disappeared I am very confused. my husband and i had some problems. he tried to commit suicide. and then he tried to make me help him of course i refused. then he turned it around and said fine were both going to die and a bunch of bad things took place and he went to jail and from there they sent him to the hospital. Continue reading "He Has Disappeared" Married for the Wrong Reason I am 23 years old and I married a man that at first I didn't love. I had feelings for him and cared for him, but I just wasn't head over heels for him. I married him for stability and to offer my five year old daughter a family. Continue reading "Married for the Wrong Reason" Will She Make a Wrong Decision? Hello. I am recently seperated with a four year old child. My husband and I have been together for seven years. I love him very much but we have differant religous and moral views. He doesn't seem to want to keep a REAL job and I stress out over all the household bills and upkeep while working a full time job. Continue reading "Will She Make a Wrong Decision?"