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Will A Cheater Always Cheat?

Do you think men that cheat will always cheat?? I recently have broken up with my boyfriend of three years because of this. I had suspected it once but gave him the benefit of the doubt, but the second time I was told about him he did admit to cheating.

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Taking Advantage Of Their Friendship

I'm hoping i can get some advice about a situation with a friend. I graduated from college a while ago and I left some friends behind well after years had past and life had been good to me I reconnected with my best friend from my college days. She and I are in two different states, and while it is nice to speak to her she calls everyday with a new situation.

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How Can She Move On?

Dear Queen of Hearts: My boyfriend and I have known each other 2 1/2 years. It's been a rocky relationship from start to finish. I say finish because he said "good-bye" to me recently. I know I should move on and try and forget about him but he is one of a kind. I've never known a sweeter love than his. I've been married once and so has he.

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He's Stringing Her Along

I hope someone can help me because I don't know what to do or think. About 5 months ago I starting dating this guy and it was intense from the start although in our first conversation he said he wasn't ready for me yet which I thought was odd.

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Is It Really Over This Time?

My live in boyfriend of 4 years has just dumped me. This time I think it's for good. We have been together for alot of memories vacations, birthdays, holidays eveything. We made plans on getting married having children together. We have broken up before but I always got him back after about 1 week or so. Does'nt look like it this time. I sit at home all day all nite, in our apartment with all our things and Im getting desperate.

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Her Boyfriend And Her Best Friend

I've been living with my boyfriend of 2 yrs and nine months for about a year and a half. We'd both talked of marriage and had definite plans for the future, or so I thought. Yesterday he tells me he can't stop thinking about my best friend. This guy is not your usual jock/insensitive guy. He's one of those whimpy intellectuals. I was totally thrown for a loop.

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Time For A Break?

My best friend and lover and I decided to make a commitment to share our lives together, not necessarily get married. We live 4 hours apart but are trying to get closer. I am by nature a very jealous person and she is by nature a very outgoing person.

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Time to Call It Quits?

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years. This year he went to college and we planned to see each other Friday and Saturday nights. We'd go to parties and what not, but the other day he told me that he had to go out to eat with a mentor then he said that he wanted to go to a party and that I could come over after he got back. When I said something about me going with him to the party he said he just wanted to meet people.

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Can She Get Him Back?

How do you win back a lost love? that a relationship went from matrimony in the spring to I have got to have space. and found a love connection on the internet and left living in an illusion of new found happiness. please advise -- Sandy

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Why Did She Leave?

This girl I was dating for 8 months just broke up with me after a wonderful weekend getaway we just had. We didn't fight, and in fact never had any problems except she would occasionally remind me that she just didn't know what she wanted.

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Strung Along By Her High School Sweetheart

Me and my High School sweetheart were together for 4 1/2 years. After graduation he cheated on me and had a baby in the situation. It was a very HARD thing to go through. I couldn't understand what was going on because we had a great relationship. We were like best friends which is probably the reason we never have ceased talking in one way or another.

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Is He Scared To Commit?

My girlfriend and I have been together for several years and I do love her very much. Lately we have begun talking about getting married and all I can do is think about the woman I was dating before we got together. In my heart I know that she was the love of my life and I never expected to lose her.

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The Trust Is Gone

My ex-boyfriend and i recently broke up after a two & a half year relationship because he found out i went out with another guy when we were on a break. i don't know what to do, i love him very much and feel like he's the one i want to be with for the rest of my life, but nothing seems to be working out.

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Parental Responsibility

I have a couple of issues. I've recently broke with my fiance. The major problem has been his parent. First of all I'm 47 and he's 38. Both his parent have been divorced for a long time. The mother has been married five times, I guess because she is not an easy person to live with.

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She Needs A Break

Dear Queenie, I started dating a girl almost 3 years ago. After a year and a half she went to Grad school. The plan was that I was going to move out there after the first year to get my GPA up. I eventually got accepted to a nearby college. Due to financial problems we decided that it was best for me not to move out by her.

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The Wedding Is Off

Queenie, my fiance and I had been together for 10 years and were due to get married in June 06. However, my partner turned round a few weeks before our wedding and confessed that he didn't want to go through with it. He wasn't sure whether he loved me or not.

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Break Up By Email?

Ok here is goes.. I am dating this woman.. she is the niece of one of my best friends. She is 30... I do not share the same feelings for her as she does for me. I know no matter what this is going to hurt her...It has only been three months, slept together like 3 times and I only see her once in a while. I have no idea how to break it to her that I cannot be with her any more.

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And Baby Makes 3

Hi Queenie, over the last year or so my boyfriend of 6 years and I have been slowly drifting apart. I know that he has cheated on me, but puts it down to us "being on a break". He has told me he still loves me but is not in love which I understand. I recently found out I am pegnant to him.

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She Went Back To Her Ex

Dear Queenie, I just got dumped by my girlfriend of 5 months. We really clicked and everything was great. She had a moment where she wanted to give her ex another chance but after a few days we were back together.

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GF Angry at Being Dumped

Hi Queenie, two days ago I broke up with my girlfriend of almost 2 years. It was and is the most painful thing I've ever been through (and I've been through the deaths of most of my family)...I love her more than I've loved anyone in my life.

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Dear Queenie: Advice for an Imperfect World Let's face it, if this was a perfect world, I'd be sitting under a beach umbrella, sipping a pina colada, watching buff bods play volleyball. But, this world is far from perfect. So, for now, the beach and buff bods will have to wait. I will, however, sip a pina colada or two as I ponder the best advice for your situation if your love life is in the dumpster.
Questions? Ask Queenie Go to Queenie Home Topics Abusive Relationships And More... Breaking Up Is Hard To Do Can This Marriage Be Saved? Can This Relationship Work? Cheating Side Of Town Cyber Love Forgiving Friends To Lovers He's Married, She's Not Is It Truly Over? Letting Go Looking For Love Midlife Madness Sexually Speaking... Stay Or Go? Torn Between Two Lovers Younger Man, Older Woman	Will A Cheater Always Cheat? Do you think men that cheat will always cheat?? I recently have broken up with my boyfriend of three years because of this. I had suspected it once but gave him the benefit of the doubt, but the second time I was told about him he did admit to cheating. Continue reading "Will A Cheater Always Cheat?" Taking Advantage Of Their Friendship I'm hoping i can get some advice about a situation with a friend. I graduated from college a while ago and I left some friends behind well after years had past and life had been good to me I reconnected with my best friend from my college days. She and I are in two different states, and while it is nice to speak to her she calls everyday with a new situation. Continue reading "Taking Advantage Of Their Friendship" How Can She Move On? Dear Queen of Hearts: My boyfriend and I have known each other 2 1/2 years. It's been a rocky relationship from start to finish. I say finish because he said "good-bye" to me recently. I know I should move on and try and forget about him but he is one of a kind. I've never known a sweeter love than his. I've been married once and so has he. Continue reading "How Can She Move On?" He's Stringing Her Along I hope someone can help me because I don't know what to do or think. About 5 months ago I starting dating this guy and it was intense from the start although in our first conversation he said he wasn't ready for me yet which I thought was odd. Continue reading "He's Stringing Her Along" Is It Really Over This Time? My live in boyfriend of 4 years has just dumped me. This time I think it's for good. We have been together for alot of memories vacations, birthdays, holidays eveything. We made plans on getting married having children together. We have broken up before but I always got him back after about 1 week or so. Does'nt look like it this time. I sit at home all day all nite, in our apartment with all our things and Im getting desperate. Continue reading "Is It Really Over This Time?" Her Boyfriend And Her Best Friend I've been living with my boyfriend of 2 yrs and nine months for about a year and a half. We'd both talked of marriage and had definite plans for the future, or so I thought. Yesterday he tells me he can't stop thinking about my best friend. This guy is not your usual jock/insensitive guy. He's one of those whimpy intellectuals. I was totally thrown for a loop. Continue reading "Her Boyfriend And Her Best Friend" Time For A Break? My best friend and lover and I decided to make a commitment to share our lives together, not necessarily get married. We live 4 hours apart but are trying to get closer. I am by nature a very jealous person and she is by nature a very outgoing person. Continue reading "Time For A Break?" Time to Call It Quits? My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years. This year he went to college and we planned to see each other Friday and Saturday nights. We'd go to parties and what not, but the other day he told me that he had to go out to eat with a mentor then he said that he wanted to go to a party and that I could come over after he got back. When I said something about me going with him to the party he said he just wanted to meet people. Continue reading "Time to Call It Quits?" Can She Get Him Back? How do you win back a lost love? that a relationship went from matrimony in the spring to I have got to have space. and found a love connection on the internet and left living in an illusion of new found happiness. please advise -- Sandy Continue reading "Can She Get Him Back?" Why Did She Leave? This girl I was dating for 8 months just broke up with me after a wonderful weekend getaway we just had. We didn't fight, and in fact never had any problems except she would occasionally remind me that she just didn't know what she wanted. Continue reading "Why Did She Leave?" Strung Along By Her High School Sweetheart Me and my High School sweetheart were together for 4 1/2 years. After graduation he cheated on me and had a baby in the situation. It was a very HARD thing to go through. I couldn't understand what was going on because we had a great relationship. We were like best friends which is probably the reason we never have ceased talking in one way or another. Continue reading "Strung Along By Her High School Sweetheart" Is He Scared To Commit? My girlfriend and I have been together for several years and I do love her very much. Lately we have begun talking about getting married and all I can do is think about the woman I was dating before we got together. In my heart I know that she was the love of my life and I never expected to lose her. Continue reading "Is He Scared To Commit?" The Trust Is Gone My ex-boyfriend and i recently broke up after a two & a half year relationship because he found out i went out with another guy when we were on a break. i don't know what to do, i love him very much and feel like he's the one i want to be with for the rest of my life, but nothing seems to be working out. Continue reading "The Trust Is Gone" Parental Responsibility I have a couple of issues. I've recently broke with my fiance. The major problem has been his parent. First of all I'm 47 and he's 38. Both his parent have been divorced for a long time. The mother has been married five times, I guess because she is not an easy person to live with. Continue reading "Parental Responsibility" She Needs A Break Dear Queenie, I started dating a girl almost 3 years ago. After a year and a half she went to Grad school. The plan was that I was going to move out there after the first year to get my GPA up. I eventually got accepted to a nearby college. Due to financial problems we decided that it was best for me not to move out by her. Continue reading "She Needs A Break" The Wedding Is Off Queenie, my fiance and I had been together for 10 years and were due to get married in June 06. However, my partner turned round a few weeks before our wedding and confessed that he didn't want to go through with it. He wasn't sure whether he loved me or not. Continue reading "The Wedding Is Off" Break Up By Email? Ok here is goes.. I am dating this woman.. she is the niece of one of my best friends. She is 30... I do not share the same feelings for her as she does for me. I know no matter what this is going to hurt her...It has only been three months, slept together like 3 times and I only see her once in a while. I have no idea how to break it to her that I cannot be with her any more. Continue reading "Break Up By Email?" And Baby Makes 3 Hi Queenie, over the last year or so my boyfriend of 6 years and I have been slowly drifting apart. I know that he has cheated on me, but puts it down to us "being on a break". He has told me he still loves me but is not in love which I understand. I recently found out I am pegnant to him. Continue reading "And Baby Makes 3" She Went Back To Her Ex Dear Queenie, I just got dumped by my girlfriend of 5 months. We really clicked and everything was great. She had a moment where she wanted to give her ex another chance but after a few days we were back together. Continue reading "She Went Back To Her Ex" GF Angry at Being Dumped Hi Queenie, two days ago I broke up with my girlfriend of almost 2 years. It was and is the most painful thing I've ever been through (and I've been through the deaths of most of my family)...I love her more than I've loved anyone in my life. Continue reading "GF Angry at Being Dumped"