Dear Queenie: Advice for an Imperfect World

Cheating on Her Marriage

I have never cheated in my 5 year marriage until now-- 3 times and I do have feelings for this other person. What do I do??

I was going to leave my husband (not telling him of this other person) but he loves me so much and is willing to do anything for it to work out. i had simply told him i love him (which i do) but wasn't sure i was in-love (fairytail love).

This other person shows also that he would like to be with me. I find him very attractive and there is a lot of chemistry between us (like all new relationships)! what do I do work on a marriage that I have been with him for seven years or get out now and see where life takes me?? -- Veronica
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Veronica, why did you get married if you weren't in love with your husband? Or did you mistake lust for love? Or did you think that marriages vows were meant to be for as long as you didn't find someone else to give you a thrill?

Neither marriage nor divorce should be done lightly. If you love your husband, work on repairing and saving your marriage. If you don't love him, then get out BEFORE continuing a relationship with this other man. Nothing is more devastating to a husband or wife than finding out that their spouse has cheated on them.

Choose wisely. -- Queenie