Dear Queenie: Advice for an Imperfect World

Will He Come Back to Her?

My partner of 17 years out of the blue just said he was leaving he is 31 this year and i have turned 32 we have two girls 9 & 5.

To when this started he had just lost his drivers licenses and had to depend on other people to get him to work and back from work and any where else he had to go, and at the same time he met this other woman, like he lost the license and the next week met her and then it was all over between him and me our relationship had been the best it had ever been in that year particular we had got engaged and we were also talking about staring on our house and then it was over, i love this man with all my heart and want him back but what am i to do.

He now has just got his license back and has come out once already since getting it but he has been working which i know would make it hard to come out, he rings me all the time to talk to me which i love but it is getting hard now for i want him back he is my soulmate do i just sit back and wait or what for i feel in myself if i ask him to come back it may push him further away for he is very stubborn when he says he has made his mind up that is it, it is not just me that think seeing he has his license back now that things might change his parents too are hoping this happens too please help me i feel i am in between a rock and a hard place.

He is living with this other woman but i know thing are not going real well at the moment and it has been like it for a while please help. It all started as infatuation so is there a chance that he might wake up to himself and come home?
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If my math is correct, the two of you have been together since you were 14 and 15 or is it 13 and 14? Of course there is always a chance he will decide that he'd rather be with you, but do you plan on waiting for him to decide? And what if his choice is to stay with her? Do you want to wait without any guarantees of what he will do? And there are no guarantees.

He is moving on, so it's time for you to move on also. Make sure, of course, that he is financially responsible for your two girls as they are his legal responsibility whether or not he is still involved with you.

If one person is in love, a relationship can't work. Both people must be in love -- with each other -- for a relationship to be successful. Letting him go doesn't mean that sometime in the future he might not come back.

It also doesn't mean that if he should come back, you won't have already found someone else who suits you better. It's a chance he takes. -- Queenie