Dear Queenie: Advice for an Imperfect World

Two Kisses And You're Out

Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. Things were perfect until I went on a girls night out and kissed another guy. I don't know why I did it, I think that the spark was dying off a bit, and I totally regret it. But I did it again on another girls night out and so I confessed to my boyfriend because I believe honesty is essential and I hoped we could start afresh.

He took it really badly and is now angry with me although he loves me. I wish I could prove to him that its him I want and not the guys I kissed in the nightclubs but I don't know how as he won't believe me whatever I say because it happened twice.

Please could you give me some advice on how to prove myself to my boyfriend how much I want to be with him. How can I make him believe me that those kisses were mistakes? Please help, I'm in agony without him. Yours faithfully -- Lou
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Lou, the first kiss is a forgiveable mistake. The second kiss was just asking for trouble in your relationship. Then you felt guilty and to ease your guilt you told your boyfriend and he got mad. What did you expect?

Let's turn this around. How would you feel if your boyfriend had gone to a strip club and kissed a girl? And then if, after confessing to you and promising he'd never do it again, he went back and did it again with someone else?

I wouldn't give you a third chance. Maybe he will. -- Queenie