Dear Queenie: Advice for an Imperfect World

Trust Issues

My boyfriend and i met while travelling last year. We have both come home and continued out relationship. Only porblem is that we dont get to spend alot of time with each other. And only get to see each other every Saturday evening untill Sunday evening.

We have had a lot of rows recently over my lack of trust for him. I found out that while we where travelling he had a girl back home. He did dump her when he saw her again, but I cant get over it. How can we save our relationship??????? -- Penny
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Dear Penny, if you don't have trust, you don't have much of a relationship. And, now that you know about the girl back home you know that he can tell you a lie without blinking an eye which makes you wonder just how many lies he tells you. Right?

If he says he wants to stay in the relationship, then put this behind you. Don't bring it up, forget it, make it a part of history that stays there. If you can't you don't have much of a chance of keeping this relationship.

Which will cause you more pain? Losing him right now or trusting him once more and maybe getting fooled again? Is the chance worth it? It should be if you really love him. Otherwise, cut your losses now and walk away. -- Queenie