Relationship Advice by Dennis W. Neder, DM: Needing Commitment Archives

She's Commitment Phobic

Hi, I've been dating a woman for over 3 years. We're both in our mid- to late-20's and live in different states. We've planned to move in together 5 times. The first time, she backed out the day before we were supposed to sign a lease. The second time, we did move in together, but it was only for three months, as I was leaving for law school at the end of the lease. The remaining 3 times she has backed out right with only a month's notice or so.

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Moving In Together

Let's explore the issues involved in moving in with your significant other. Some people view this as a prelude to getting married; others see it as a natural "next step" without a further goal. Either way, this is a big commitment on the part of both parties. Of course, I'm talking about setting up house as a couple, not simply sharing housing costs as roommates.

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You Can't 'Own' Someone Else!

I have been with the same guy for 9 months. He has been married twice and has 4 children. The first 6 months things were really good. We became serious and I fell in love with him and I told him so. That's when things got crazy! He has never told me he loves me but when I confront him about it, he says he is scared of saying it because he thinks things will go bad.

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Why Do Men Fear Commitment?

Dr. Neder, why does a guy bolt for the door, when he has everything he wants? I seem to be getting a lot of "I'm afraid of commitment", "We are too close", and "You're great but I'm not ready".

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He's Hot, He's Cold, And He's Hot Again!

Dear Dr. Neder, I've been in a relationship with a 48 year old divorced man for what will be one year on Valentine's Day. My problem is that my boyfriend cannot tell me that he loves me. He has a history of not being in love with previous girlfriends live in or otherwise. His ex-wife left him for another man and he had trouble admitting he ever loved her.

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How Do I Get Him To Marry Me?

Dear Dr. Neder, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We recently ran into a major issue: his fear of commitment, and my wanting one.

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Messing Up The Perfect Thing

Dr. Dennis W. Neder: Good Morning! I am a 36 year old, single mother of 4. I know what you are thinking. RUN.. really it isn't that bad, I promise.

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I Feel Like I've Been Waiting Forever!

Doc: My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We have lived together for 2 years and we get along fine. We have our times but not many of them. I do everything for him: cook, clean, and everything else a wife would do.

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Relationship Advice by Dennis W. Neder, DM Dennis W. Neder, DM, ("Dr. Dennis"), is a top relationship, dating, and sex expert who has been seen and heard on hundreds of radio, TV, magazine, and Internet sources. He holds a Doctor of Metaphysics degree and is the author of two books for men.
Topics Baggage Can This Relationship Work? Cheaters Dating Etiquette Dysfunctional Relationships Endings For The Gals For The Guys Needing Commitment Sex Stay Or Go? Taking The Plunge The Dating Game Trust Go to Home FRIENDS & Lovers	She's Commitment Phobic Hi, I've been dating a woman for over 3 years. We're both in our mid- to late-20's and live in different states. We've planned to move in together 5 times. The first time, she backed out the day before we were supposed to sign a lease. The second time, we did move in together, but it was only for three months, as I was leaving for law school at the end of the lease. The remaining 3 times she has backed out right with only a month's notice or so. Continue reading "She's Commitment Phobic" Moving In Together Let's explore the issues involved in moving in with your significant other. Some people view this as a prelude to getting married; others see it as a natural "next step" without a further goal. Either way, this is a big commitment on the part of both parties. Of course, I'm talking about setting up house as a couple, not simply sharing housing costs as roommates. Continue reading "Moving In Together" You Can't 'Own' Someone Else! I have been with the same guy for 9 months. He has been married twice and has 4 children. The first 6 months things were really good. We became serious and I fell in love with him and I told him so. That's when things got crazy! He has never told me he loves me but when I confront him about it, he says he is scared of saying it because he thinks things will go bad. Continue reading "You Can't 'Own' Someone Else!" Why Do Men Fear Commitment? Dr. Neder, why does a guy bolt for the door, when he has everything he wants? I seem to be getting a lot of "I'm afraid of commitment", "We are too close", and "You're great but I'm not ready". Continue reading "Why Do Men Fear Commitment?" He's Hot, He's Cold, And He's Hot Again! Dear Dr. Neder, I've been in a relationship with a 48 year old divorced man for what will be one year on Valentine's Day. My problem is that my boyfriend cannot tell me that he loves me. He has a history of not being in love with previous girlfriends live in or otherwise. His ex-wife left him for another man and he had trouble admitting he ever loved her. Continue reading "He's Hot, He's Cold, And He's Hot Again!" How Do I Get Him To Marry Me? Dear Dr. Neder, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We recently ran into a major issue: his fear of commitment, and my wanting one. Continue reading "How Do I Get Him To Marry Me?" Messing Up The Perfect Thing Dr. Dennis W. Neder: Good Morning! I am a 36 year old, single mother of 4. I know what you are thinking. RUN.. really it isn't that bad, I promise. Continue reading "Messing Up The Perfect Thing" I Feel Like I've Been Waiting Forever! Doc: My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We have lived together for 2 years and we get along fine. We have our times but not many of them. I do everything for him: cook, clean, and everything else a wife would do. Continue reading "I Feel Like I've Been Waiting Forever!"