Direct Answers from Wayne and Tamara

Okay, I can't even believe I'm sending this off, but the fact is I know my friends and family love me and I'm smart enough to realize they are just trying to help. For some reason I need to ask for your opinion as well.

I am a 27-year-old professional woman. I have bachelor's and master's degrees in my chosen field. I work for a public company and deal with stressful deadlines and tense situations all the time. I met a married man, 25, with three children. He is going through a divorce, but he has no education, no real plan in life, and frankly, no future.

He's not done much besides fathering kids. Still I think there is a chance this person and I could be happy together, and he's the one to start a life and family with.

Candace

Candace, why did you write us? Because your family and friends are not giving you the green light to go ahead and do this. We aren't either. Otherwise our column would be called "How to Mess Up Your Life."

You describe an intense, demanding, responsible job where your top performance is essential. How could you keep up your work performance with this man, his children, and his ex-wife in your life?

You want marriage and a family, but it's got to be to the right man, a man who can without question support his wife in every way.

Wayne & Tamara